Getting engaged after 3 months of dating
I realize there is no fast and hard rule for this and (probably) no wrong answer.
Bob strongly suspects that 8 months is way too short of a time but he is willing to admit that he has been wrong in the past about a number of things and maybe this is another one of those things.
On the other hand, Bob is in his 30s, not getting any younger, and dating for 5 years may be a bit extreme at this point. How long did YOU date before popping the question / getting asked?
Bob is aware of national divorce rates and did not want to be hasty and thought that 8 months of dating is not enough to make such decisions.
But is marrying someone after such a brief time really such a terrible idea? And how their newlywed phase is comfy and cozy and romantic, but not particularly sexy?
Marrying someone you hardly know means you will not be one of those boring newlywed couples. The newlywed couple that goes at it every day of the week and twice on Sundays.
He just kissed you and you feel happier and more loved and content than you've ever felt in your life. " I feel I am somewhat of an authority when it comes to knowing the divorced guy. I can also attest to the fact that there are certain questions a new girlfriend can ask too soon--questions that will turn him off so fast, your head will spin. Why would you want to jump in and get the kids together? Because if they get close to his kids, and then you and the guy split up, the kids are the ones who suffer another loss, new friends that they will never see again.
Actually, some people get engaged quickly and they end up divorced. When you finally meet a great guy, even in the first few months, you might know you are in love. But what I've learned is if you wait a year or two, and you still feel like you did in month number three, then what you have is really real.
Especially in dating after divorce, people don't get engaged three months into a relationship.
She is also the author of the comedic novel, FREE GIFT WITH PURCHASE about life after divorce. Pilossoph is a weekly business features reporter and columnist for Sun-Times Media.
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